Get It Up! : The Ultimate Guide to Overcoming Erectile Dysfunction
Kimberly Hayes Taylor
Health/Wellness
Published by Neal Brooks Publishing at Smashwords
Copyright 2011 Kimberly Hayes Taylor
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Introduction
Why would a woman want to write a book about erectile dysfunction? People ask me that question all the time. Well, my answer is simple: It takes two, baby.
I hear too many women complaining that their men can’t do anything sexually, and they don’t know what to do about it. Sure, they may be in love and in a committed relationship or marriage, but it definitely is pull-your-hair-out frustrating when a woman wants to be as close as possible and can’t because her man can’t get or maintain an erection.
What’s worse than that? Intellectually, I know many worse situations occur in life. But the moment this situation slaps a woman in the face and she realizes her mate can’t properly function; her brain goes into overtime trying to figure out what to do about it.
Meanwhile, women do their best to encourage their man to do something about it. They urge him to see a doctor, research the topic and ask for advice from trusted friends. Attempting to be as delicate as possible, they become relentless about finding a solution because many men remain in denial for prolonged periods of time. In fact, only a small percentage of them seek treatment because of embarrassment. That’s sad because successful treatment is available for nearly every man experiencing erectile dysfunction.
Besides that, the late singer Marvin Gaye, may have been onto something, when he sang about “Sexual Healing.”
“And when I get that feeling
I want sexual healing
Sexual healing is good for me
Makes me feel so fine, it's such a rush
Helps to relieve the mind, and it's good for us
Sexual healing, baby, it's good for me
Sexual healing is something that's good for me
In fact, sex is healing. Research shows that men who have frequent sex have an enduring sex life, and remain healthier and happier as they age. By the way, this holds true for women as well. Women who have healthy sex lives have fewer health issues, and are happier and more fulfilled with their lives. So it’s a good idea to remain a team player.
I became interested in the topic of erectile dysfunction in 2003, when Viagra, the first oral drug for erectile dysfunction, got its first competition with the introduction of the prescription drugs Cialis and Levitra. I wrote an article for a major Detroit newspaper that compared and contrasted the three drugs and detailed other treatment options.
At that time, I had been a newspaper reporter for nearly 20 years and had uncovered corruption, and written all sorts of stories about the mob, murders, fatal fires and accidents, HIV/AIDS and homelessness. However, no other story got a response like that one.
The day the story ran, I was bombarded with dozens of calls and emails from men all over the world. They called from Asia to Australia and from California to the Caribbean. Even four years after the story ran, I still got a call or two each month, and they continued for five years.
It was an eye-opening experience to say the least. I finally understood how desperate men were to get information on how to overcome erectile dysfunction. It also helped me to understand the power of the Internet. Those inquiries from around the world came from men who read a story in a Detroit newspaper. Many men acknowledged they had never discussed this issue with anyone else. I was only doing my job, but I felt special to be able to point them in the right direction.
Each man was hesitant and seemed afraid to speak. Initially, I thought they were prank callers or perverts because of their hesitancy to speak. Each time, just as I was about to hang up, a strange-sounding voice would ring out with nearly the exact same words. “Ms. Taylor, I read your story…”
Slowly, they uttered more words. “I have a problem,” they continued. “I have that thing you wrote about. I have that erectile dysfunction thing.”
I offered the same advice I will offer in this book: See an urologist. He or she undoubtedly will be able to help. Some doctors, obviously, are better than others. And sometimes, our personalities don’t mesh with our doctor’s. However, with perseverance, every man can find a physician who can and will get to the root of the problem and the good news is most cases of erectile dysfunction can be cured.
Since then, I learned erectile dysfunction is a more serious condition than even doctors initially thought. I wrote this book because the condition affects millions of men who may not know their symptoms actually can be a blessing in disguise because erectile dysfunction may be the first warning that a heart attack is looming. It also can be an indication of diabetes or many other diseases.
In this book, I have provided the latest research available around the world as well as some true stories of men who have experienced erectile dysfunction and overcame it. I found these men by submitting queries on “Help A Reporter Out,” an online resource service for writers and journalists, and asking friends to put me in touch with people they know. I placed ads in the platonic section for cities around the nation on Craig’s List. Doctors helped me reach out to their patients. Anxious to help, my father even connected me with one of his friends who enjoyed sharing with other men that he had a penile implant.
Because of the topic’s sensitivity, at the men’s request, I use pseudonyms for their names. It is the first time I’ve been able to get away with this in all these years as a journalist. I believe a person’s true story, and the journey along the way is more important than their real names. Besides, I’m not writing this book to put anybody’s business out there. Life is hard enough.
I also have included information on hormonal therapy, herbal treatments, exercise and other lifestyle changes that can dramatically impact erectile dysfunction symptoms. Further, you’ll learn about aphrodisiac foods, nutrition, sleep disorders, environmental impact and erectile dysfunction treatments in the works.
As you read, you will see this truly is the ultimate guide to erectile dysfunction. More importantly, I wrote this men’s health book in hopes that the information also will help save lives, and help women get some answers they need to save their relationships.
I enjoy sharing information. Barring all religious and moral points of view, I believe the world probably would be a better place if more people were in happy, loving relationships and enjoying lots of quality sex -- safely, of course. Here’s to your happier, healthier and more fulfilling sex life.
Chapter 1
“When you’ve got this problem, it makes you feel less than a man.” – Curtis of Durham, N.C.
Why Can’t You Get It Up?
You’ve wined and dined her. Now, romance is on your mind. You set the scene in the bedroom with soft music and candlelight. Then, just when the mood seems perfect and you’re ready for action, you can’t get an erection. Soft kisses, a little more stimulation, another glass of wine. Nothing seems to work; even Luther Vandross and Barry White aren’t helping you out, and the only thing that’s growing in the bedroom is your frustration.
It’s embarrassing to say the least. If you’re married, your wife may be a bit more understanding when you can’t get it up, but this scenario can spell disaster for a dating relationship. You tell your mate you’re tired. Maybe you’re so embarrassed you decide to blame her for what is happening.
You get so upset about your situation that you even stoop so low as to open your mouth and say something insane like you couldn’t get stimulated because of something she said or did. Maybe you crawl so far into the gutter you tell her something ridiculous like she turns you off because her feet are too big, her stomach has too many stretch marks or her lipstick is too red. If you decide to go this far, you had better watch out. She may go Lorena Bobbitt on you, and try to cut your penis off, and plead temporary insanity.
To say the least, having erectile problems can lead to an explosive situation.
In addition to that, your mate may feel you no longer are attracted to her, and your feelings don’t run deep enough to get sexually aroused by her. She also may begin to suspect you have someone else on the side, and you’re not aroused because you previously had your fill of sex. Let’s face it; she may leave.
Further, the uncertainty of whether you can perform sexually may make you feel ashamed and begin to avoid sexual encounters all together.
If this is happening to you, it’s not the time to hunker down and hide the condition or blame your mate for the circumstance. It’s time to see a doctor for help. You may have erectile dysfunction (ED), a condition sometimes called impotence.
Erectile dysfunction or impotence is the incapability to get and maintain an erection that’s hard enough for sexual intercourse on an ongoing basis.
Symptoms can include:
Difficulty getting a full erection
Difficulty maintaining an erection
Low sex drive
If you’ve had difficulty maintaining an erection a time or two, it’s not cause for alarm. However, if erectile dysfunction continues to occur, it can decrease your self-confidence, stir up conflict in your relationship and increase your anxiety and stress levels.
Although it may be difficult to visit a doctor, another man or woman, to talk about not being able to get a hard penis, go see a doctor anyway. Having trouble getting or maintaining an erection can be about much more than impacting your sex life. It could be an indication that a heart attack is knocking on your door or that you have some other form of cardiovascular disease. Erectile dysfunction or impotence also may be a sign that you have untreated or undiagnosed diabetes or another health condition.