the life you want
by
Dana Logue and Tom McAroe
CoolavanghPress
the life you want
by Dana Logue and Tom McAroe
http://www.thelifeyouwantbook.com/
Copyright 2011 © by Dana Logue and Tom McAroe.
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Freezing Thought
Murphy, a young Irish man, worked at an abattoir just outside of Dublin. After everyone had gone home for the evening, Murphy went to grab some grub from the freezer. The moment he stepped foot in the freezer, the door closed and locked behind him. Murphy immediately panicked, as he knew that anyone in it for longer than three hours would freeze—and there he was stuck in a freezer with only a t-shirt on him.
The boys came in for their shift the following morning only to find Murphy laying there frozen. An autopsy was performed and the results revealed that Murphy had indeed froze to death.
However, the manager had checked the freezer the day that Murphy died and seen that it was broken and had it scheduled to be fixed the morning that Murphy was found.
That night that Murphy froze, the freezer never dropped below room temperature.
Murphy believed that that freezer would freeze him!
So does that mean that your beliefs have the power to dictate your life? If so, what can happen if you change your beliefs to those that support you for your best good?
What You Haven’t Known
Many people have been brought up to believe that their life is not in their control. Beliefs in luck, fate and destiny have people living with a sense of powerlessness. What I would like to make clear is that nothing in your life is in the hands of a power other than yourself.
Now in every moment you have the power to change anything that may not be pleasing you. Whatever happens to be your experience is only that because of the beliefs that you have chosen to believe.
Many beliefs tend to go unrecognized, and are often mistaken for facts. There are many beliefs that you have and many of them serve you in a positive manner, but there also happens to be many that serve you in a limiting sense.
The beliefs that you carry at this time are more than likely those that you have picked up from others. Several are from your parents and those around you, and lots are from the media.
So if there are beliefs that you can pick up so easily from others, that it goes unrecognized, doesn’t it make you wonder how your life can be when you choose which beliefs you will believe. And then your life is in your control.
Number 1 Comes First
Somewhere along the line you’ve been told to put yourself last after all others have been helped. When you feel you must follow that belief you really only use that as an excuse to not let yourself deserve the life you want to live. When you don’t attend to yourself you cut yourself off from the reason you are here to begin with.
You are going to learn how to attend to yourself first and at the same time help others in a more powerful way than you have before.
The Present
In every moment you are always given feedback from your inner self. The feedback is shown to you at all times as to whether or not you are on track with your desired life.
In every moment you are either feeling an emotion that feels good or an emotion that feels bad. Then there are all the emotions in between that dictate whether you are feeling good or bad. So that can only mean that you just have the choice to feel good or to feel bad.
When you feel you don’t have the choice to feel other than you are feeling you keep your highest power locked up. In order to allow that power to project itself you must begin to pay close attention to how you are feeling, along with the belief that you have the choice to change and direct your emotions.
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You are always given this feedback from your inner self. You are constantly desiring more from life, and with that desire you are always given the choice to either follow it or not. So that choice will then allow you the choice to feel good or bad also.
An example is, if your life causes you to desire a better relationship with someone—meaning that your current relationship is not up to your standards—you then have the choice to make the decision to improve that relationship. Once you decide to improve it you are then given feedback from your inner self, and the feedback is telling you whether or not you are heading in the direction of your new desire. The choice that you get to make is to feel good about your new desire or to feel bad about it.
Always when you are feeling good you are heading towards your desire and always when you are feeling bad you are heading in the opposite direction of it. But you must know that you always have the choice.
The Wind Blows
Whenever you have your desire noted and have now made the decision to make your way towards it, you are then going to be caught among situations that are going to push you towards what you want or push you away from it.
Every thought that you think that feels good will be pushing you towards it and every thought that feels bad will push you away from it. With the thoughts that feel good it will feel as though you are walking with the wind at your back—the easier it is, the easier it gets. When you think thoughts that feel bad it’s like walking against the wind—the harder it is, the harder it gets. And the wind will always pick up momentum in which ever direction you are heading.
However, you always have the choice to change the direction at anytime. So even in the moment that you make the decision to change the direction, the momentum of that direction slows down and begins to change direction, and picks up speed in that direction.
That’s Just the Way It Is
There is a system in which every desire follows. First, there is always the creating of the desire—you choose what you want. Then what follows, is the belief of obtaining the desire or not. Following the belief, is the various thoughts upon the desire. Then the emotions you feel are always activated by the thoughts you think about your desire.
In order to even be remotely heading in the direction towards your desire, the belief must be that this desire can be obtained in some way. If the belief is other than that, the belief must be changed.
Once the belief has been recognized—whether you are aware of it or not—it will always bring about thoughts that will match the belief, and then the thoughts will always cause the emotions that are felt. So if right away the thought of your desire brings about negative emotion, that means the belief of obtaining your desire must be changed first, or else you will never feel good when you think about what you want.
Then that must mean that your beliefs, thoughts and emotions are equally as important when fulfilling your life. For without the emotion, the belief cannot be recognized, and without the thought, the emotion can’t be felt.
All beliefs, thoughts and emotions can be changed, with a little bit of effort, so that they now bring you and your desire together.
Allow Your Desire In
Once a belief has been recognized you must begin to allow what you want to come to you. Allowing what you want is going to be where most of your effort is required. In this place of allowing you will be guided towards your desire by your thoughts and emotions.
Every thought that you think will either bring you to what you want or away from it. That is why it is important to be aware of the thoughts you think, and become aware of how those thoughts make you feel.
Open up to the emotions that you receive from your thoughts. You can easily do this by beginning to become aware of whether a thought makes you feel good or bad. You must begin paying attention more often throughout your day as to whether or not what you are thinking is making you feel good or bad. And if and when your thoughts are thinking too much, you must ask yourself, “Do I feel on the higher scale of good or bad?”
All emotions will at various times feel different depending on where the previous emotion was, meaning, whether it was on the higher end of good or the higher end of bad, and depending on which direction it is headed.
You will always know the direction you are headed without any doubt. When the thought feels good it is good for you and where you want to go.
It’s Your Choice
Whatever your desire may be there is always a way of obtaining it, even if at this moment it seems so out of reach that you can’t even get a glimpse of it from where you are. This time is your time to make the decision as to whether your life is important enough to you to make the simple effort of deciding which beliefs you will choose to believe, what thoughts you will think, and what emotions you will put up with.
This book is a simple reference written to guide you towards the life you want to live. All the processes in this book will bring you and your desire in perfect harmony, and all that is required is your willingness to learn and the effort put in on your behalf.
Your Powerhouse
You are brought into this life with an inner self and you are also always a part of the whole soul that was there in existence before you were born. You are always connected to both your soul and inner self, and both work in tune together with you as a person.
Ponder This
When you as a person have a desire of any degree, your inner self works with you to guide you in the direction of that desire, and all the while your soul is already waiting for you in the place where you would be with your desire.
The work of your soul is to get your inner self to bring you over to that desired place. However, at times you don’t listen to your inner self, so you don’t go.
What You Get
When you choose not to listen to your inner self, you continue to get more of the same life you are wanting to change.
Many of us have been taught to not expect much from life and ourselves. That belief is what causes us to not get much from it and ourselves.
When you never receive what it is that you really want, you, in a way, pinch yourself off of the soul that you came from. And every time you choose to ignore your inner self, you become a sort of broken part of who you are.
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A lot of us are constantly looking to get more from life. Nothing that we seem to do satisfies us enough so that we wake up every morning with a sense of joy and passion. The main reason for that lack of passion is that many of us conform to the way that society believes that we should live. And society has it that you are to never break away from what’s expected.
There is a massive amount of people that dread just what tomorrow has on their schedule, and many people are just plain bored that the thought of another day like this is just a waste of time. Numbers of us are expected to know what we want to do with ourselves at an unreasonable age, when what you want to do is constantly changing. You are expected to have your family up and running and your finances under control, all by a specific time. Society wants you to keep up with what everyone else is doing, and if you ever thought to do something other than what’s expected of you, you’re well, a weirdo.
Now I am telling you that stepping out of societies prison and doing whatever it is you want to do in life is the best thing you can do.
What You See
The way that most of us have been taught is to never know what really goes on inside ourselves. Everything that happens in our lives is brought to us by our own ideas and belief about our ideas. An idea is what you would usually call a reality of life. You think what you are currently living is what your life is; however, everything that you are living is just an idea of what life should be. That is why nothing in your life is permanent.
If the life that you have is the way that life is supposed to be then that would mean that it is supposed to be the same for everyone else. But the way that it is is that you get to choose what idea a life should be for you. You always get the right to choose what idea is best for you.
You already have an idea of what the most appropriate life for yourself seems like, and those ideas of this life are always a match to your beliefs. However, since ideas are just ideas, they can be changed so that they match what your ideal life would look like. And since they are not anywhere near what a life should be, these ideas can be changed quite easily.
Your Way of Making It Happen
You not only believe that what you get in life is just because that is the way life handed it to you, but you also believe that what you get must be earned and nothing gained without pain.
You are a person of this planet, as is everyone else. The moment you were born you were your own precious person. You were in fact not only loved, but just simply adored.
You may believe that that is just the innocence that all children have but that innocence is and always will be a part of you. You have come to believe that a child’s precious place in the world is more pure than your own, when the world you have yourself is just as pure and innocent.
The main reason you believe that nonsense is because you have built up some guilt along your trail. All that guilt is only a way of you not allowing yourself to learn and make mistakes. Then you put up a sort of wall to everything that you desire and yourself. Keeping a hold of your guilt is maybe the reason you never allow yourself to just get what you want without any struggle. So you think that for yourself to obtain your desires you must put in more agony to at least make yourself relatively worthy of what you want. Not any amount of agony or struggle will make up for not changing the belief on what you think being worthy should allow.
You Are Worth It All
Every single desire that you want has the potential to desire you. All that you may find to be lined up with your desire is not just one desire but everything that is of the same essence. What that means is when you want, say a lot more money, it’s not just the money that you are wanting but rather it’s everything that money represents, such as material possessions with the freedom to purchase at your choice. From that freedom comes also the essence of the freedom to work at a time that pleases you and an art that pleases you. From that freedom also comes the security of being safe on a financial level, which would then bring the essence of being safe in your relationships and environment.
Once you change your belief on being worthy in one area of your life, you will automatically have the desire to have the essence of what your desire represents flood into all other areas of your life. Every desire will always bring with it the wanting of what it means to you in many other ways. That’s why when you allow only one desire in, everything else in your life will flourish.
Everything You Want
Every desire has with it a specific manifestation process that will always work in the exact same way for each desire, whether big or small, material or emotional. No matter what it may be, it will always unfold in the exact way that matches your belief that you believe now about your desire. Far too many of us are unwilling to allow this manifesting time to unfold. Most are way too impatient to let this time take place. Nonetheless, all unfolding must go through this time.
Your soul has been accumulating a sort of massive pool of every desire that you have ever desired. So when you have decided to desire something, what happens is, you send a message to your soul who then instantly becomes that new desire. Once your soul becomes that desire, it immediately works at getting what you want to go to you. A good way to understand that is to imagine your soul as another you that is living every single desire you have ever desired. Or another way to look at it is your soul is always on the manifested side of every desire.
Once that has taken place—your soul becoming your desire—then there is a time now where you must let in what you want. And in order to do that, you must find out what your main belief, thoughts and emotions are in regards to your desire.
What You Do
All of the things in your life are just the manifesting of every belief that you have up until now believed. Nothing that is here now is permanent and nothing that is still to come is permanent. Whether or not you have been aware of the creating you have done up until this point, it still does not matter or change the fact that you were still creating it yourself.
Since everything in your world is only an idea of what you believe, it should then be relatively easy to change that that you no longer wish to have and receive that which you wish to have instead.
Your soul already is what you desire and the only way your inner self can direct you is in the direction of what you want. And the only reason you sometimes don’t go in that direction is because your beliefs tell you otherwise.
Breaking Free
When you understand that your beliefs about your life are the reason why everything happens the way it does, you instantly set yourself free.
Every belief has with it a strong knowing that makes your belief believable. A knowing of something is an emotion that brings everything into fruition. So what that must mean is that to manifest any desire you must have your belief in a place that the knowing of it to be yours must override all other emotions of never receiving what you want.
Finding what exactly your beliefs are, in regards to your desire, is easier than you may imagine. Many of us have been told that beliefs are not what you believe, but rather a proven fact of life. Whenever you were a child you picked up many beliefs on various topics and never thought to question whether or not these beliefs serve you in the way you would like.
Although you are not still where you want to be, doesn’t mean that you may not get there very soon.
Realizing What You Think
Every time that you think about anything over a certain amount of time, that thought becomes embedded in your mind and forms a belief. The beliefs that you have picked up from infancy have been formed by you, at that time, picking up on the energy that those around you were projecting from themselves as regards to their beliefs at that time. Probably the beliefs that they held were formed in the same manner, including ones that they happened to create because of their idea that they made about their idea of life and this world. Then all that can mean is that your beliefs are formed by you in two different ways.
Now the beliefs that are formed at childhood can be changed and the ones that have been created by your thoughts can also be changed, as well as recognizing what thoughts are the ones that are limiting your beliefs. Then you will be able to create a new thought, to form a new belief that you would rather hold.
The Past Is The Past
Everyone has had a past that brought them to this exact moment. The past is just the past, but what many people tend to do is reopen the past that they have at every moment that something is not working out well for them. If instead of taking a good look at their past problems they took a better look at their now, they would get much better and quicker results to what they are wanting to change.
Many people tend to give their own power of focus over to some doctor that claims they must fish out all repressed emotions that were there in infancy. Most often these emotions are not even consciously available at this time that a session of hypnosis must be applied. The reason you are unable to bring those emotions to the surface is because your inner self knows that it will serve no purpose, other than bring them into the present where they don’t belong. Any negative episodes that were experienced and put to rest, could possibly, in essence, come into your life again.
There may be some episodes you have not put to rest, and you don’t have to look to the past for them, as there will be an emotional feeling present that you will recognize when you take a good look at your beliefs in various areas of your life at this time.
Beliefs change throughout your life and that is why the past ones don’t matter—they are no longer a belief that you believe, so they can no longer create in your now and future.
Understanding Beliefs
When a belief has been recognized it then has the ability to change or stay the same. In the large scale of things it doesn’t matter that you don’t change them, but if you are unsatisfied with something in your life, or there is something that you desire that doesn’t feel good, it is essential that you do change them.
Many beliefs can be challenging to recognize at first since you have until now thought of them as truth and facts. Letting yourself understand how beliefs work will give you a greater understanding of how and why your life is the way that it is, and what you can expect from the now and future. Let’s take a look at some common beliefs that many hold:
The world is dangerous and unsafe.
This belief will cause you to feel unsafe in your environment and more unsafe if you leave your current living space. This belief also tells you not to trust others.
The world is a joyful and pleasant place to be.
This belief will cause you to feel comfortable and safe wherever you go. It will also allow you to seek out new adventures with a sense of anticipation and excitement. This belief will give you a genuine smile on your face, and also on the faces of others. Everything will seem as a manmade heaven.
Everything that I get must be earned.
This belief causes you to never expect much from life. It also causes you to only receive good when a whole lot of effort was put into it. This belief will always have you working hard with little time to enjoy what is being earned.
The universe always provides what I want.
This belief gives a sense of freedom and knowledge. It says that you can enjoy everything in life and know that you will always be supported.
My self has no control over what happens.
This belief gives a sense of powerlessness. It will have you living in fear and to be constantly dependant on others. This belief will make you feel that nothing in the world is safe.
I am in control of what happens to me.
This belief tells you that nothing can touch you without you being aware of it first. It will give you a feeling of power and joy. This belief will make you manifest everything you desire with ease.
Every belief, whether it appears to be positive or negative, comes with it then ideas of how you view yourself and the world. And that will then of course create that view for you so that it matches the belief.
The Belief That Changed
How just a little bit of effort can bring such dramatic results into someone’s life can make the thought of this change quite difficult to believe. But that’s only the belief that you and many others have believed, that new change is a stepping stone process that must only be started at the bottom and worked on until you have reached the top, with many struggles and hardships to move through. So you bypass any advice that you receive that’s too simple and too good to be true.
However, when you begin this process with a sceptical mind it will be to your advantage, as you will have no expectations of the progress you will soon encounter. You will not be looking and checking in every few hours to see the evidence of it working for you.
Changing a belief will be far easier and will bring about better results than trying to keep negative thoughts from entering your mind. Every time you try to push negative thoughts from your mind, you only create more of what you are trying to remove, but that is something we will discuss later.
All you must do is begin the process we will discuss and nothing else will be required of you. Changing your beliefs is the beginning of the life you want. The results will be amazing and you will feel vital and powerful by doing so.
Free Now
To change a belief has this simple, yet so powerful process. Begin by stating the belief of something you want to change or something you have difficulty believing you can have. This is to be your current belief that is stated. The belief can be anything you feel you think strongly about or have a high opinion of.
An excellent way to find out what your current belief is, is to write down several statements about how you feel about the thing you want to change or how you feel about what you want. Have a good look over them and you should see some sort of pattern between them.
If you find it difficult to recognize the pattern, leave it for a few days and you will then be able to notice one. Also when you leave it for a few days you will allow other feelings, that you were unaware you had, to come to the surface. The feelings that you have not been aware of may very well be your strongest emotion in regards to this subject, just pushed away because of fear. Letting all emotions—hidden or not hidden—come to the surface is the first step to change. Do not fear your emotions, for this will only cause resistance even more.
At this time you should already be feeling freer, and you will be noticing how your beliefs are just that—beliefs not truth.
Now with each statement you have noted, write down the emotion that you feel towards each one. Use a thesaurus to help you identify the most appropriate emotion. The variety of words that you use may be limited, but with the thesaurus it helps broaden your range. Also some words seem to have the same meaning, but have very different meanings to you regarding the emotion you feel when reading each statement.
With each emotion that you have written for all the statements, take the one that you feel has the strongest negative or resistant emotion towards the belief that you want to change. Or choose the emotion that matches the belief most appropriately, or even the one that stands out the most for you. You will know what feels most right.
With the emotion that you have chosen, find the best word for you that is the complete opposite emotion that you want to feel about your belief—the belief you want to believe about your desire. Then write down various beliefs that give you the emotion that mean the same as your new emotion. Don’t give too much thought to what you are writing. Your statements should not be too long and complicated. They should be short and easy to read aloud. Read over your list and select the best statement for you that is the most suitable for the belief you want to believe about your desire.
Then with the new statement, for five to ten minutes every day, recite it over and over in your mind or aloud, whichever feels best for you. During this time imagine the statement as a belief that you believe. Feel the belief as being a belief you have always believed. Feel the words as ringing truth for you.
A very important attitude to have before and during this process is to take it as a game you are playing, and do not be overly serious with it. Pretend you are in a child’s mind and become light-hearted and playful—for when you are playful you have no resistance.
I want to repeat the importance of being light-hearted and playful, so that you understand its importance in changing your belief to receive the quickest and best results.
Broken Free
Once you begin to understand your beliefs and recognize which ones hold you away from what you want, you will come to realize that your beliefs are just beliefs and that they are not a permanent part of you. They were formed by you and they can be changed by you. The beliefs that you now hold that you don’t feel serve you in the way you would like to serve yourself can very easily be changed to ones that do.
Having an open mind while searching for your beliefs is beneficial. Being childlike while changing them is key.
Even though your beliefs may have been with you for some time does not mean they must take time to change. Using the process we have discussed, many beliefs can be changed in an overnight period and some will require more time, approximately a month maximum, but all it takes is your commitment to yourself for five to ten minutes a day.
Although you may not fully realize the power in this simple process, it will be to your benefit to keep the sceptical mind in order to be playful about it and to not be checking in for your results everyday.
Once your beliefs change, your thoughts will automatically change.
Thoughts That Think
Since your thoughts are what bring about a belief, there is great power in every thought that you think. Whenever you think something it will begin thinking on its own, but you may not be fully aware of this. Every thought will always think new thoughts that are similar in emotion. However, finding out what your thoughts are can also be fairly simple when you begin to pay closer attention to them.
Thoughts Are Thoughts
Each and every thought will always create more thoughts that will match the thought. Whenever you think about anything there has to be a flow that is in place. Many people believe that their thoughts are just that—thoughts. They carry on their daily routines without giving any attention to what they are thinking about, and more importantly, what they are thinking in regards to what they are wanting.
You must begin to have an awareness of what you are thinking in your day-to-day life, for every thought has the potential to create your beliefs.
You are thinking all day without even having the slightest notion about what you’re thinking. Whenever you are thinking a thought that thought will automatically conjure up another thought that is similar in nature. This is what the flow of all your thoughts is.
You think that thoughts haven’t any strong creating power with regards to how your life becomes what it is, but they are so much more than you think you know.
One Plus One
An example to understand just how one thought creates another will help you understand your thoughts much better.
Think right now about the fact that your job doesn’t allow much time for you to vacation wherever you want. They actually don’t even pay you enough to stay away for as long as you please, for you need to be working in order to pay your current bills, not put a luxury vacation on top of what you already spend. You are most likely thinking right now that the very fact is that its true, “I haven’t enough vacation time to really go where I want to go, and I haven’t enough money to go anyways.”
What is beginning to happen is you are thinking every thought that matches the thought that you are unable to go on holiday when you would like. You may even be thinking of many more reasons why you are unable to go, such as, “The children are at school and I couldn’t take them out or go without them. And I really don’t want to leave the dogs in a kennel.”
That’s just an example of how each thought leads on to another. The first thought was not being able to go because of your work schedule, which led on to thinking up every other thought about not being able to go. Had the example said for you to imagine plenty of money kicking around, and a job that you could come and go as you please, the thoughts would have been different—more freedom involved—but how each thought leads on to the next is the exact same.
So just from one thought many more with the same emotion will follow. This can be a very good thing or a very bad thing. It just depends on whether your thoughts are about your desire or not. But, either way, a thought is always creating another thought.
Beliefs That Think
Other than the beliefs that you have picked up from your parents when you were a youngster, there are also beliefs that you have created by your own thoughts. When a thought has been thought enough times it then becomes more than just a thought, it becomes a belief that you know to be true.
You are thinking so many thoughts in each day. From the moment you open your eyes in the morning, to the moment you fall sound asleep, you are thinking thoughts. There happen to be many thoughts running through your mind that don’t really have any power, or at least not enough to form a belief. These would be thoughts, such as when to eat, brushing your teeth, making your food, being in a car or what to watch on TV.
But there are also many thoughts that do have power in them to create a belief. These thoughts can be anything from what you think about when you think about money, work, your body and health, and those important people around you. These thoughts would also include what you think about the economy and the world as a whole. All of these thoughts have much power in them because they are topics that hit you on a more personal level than those about just daily decision-making.
When you begin to think more often about what it is that you are thinking about, especially in regards to what you want, you will soon notice that your thoughts are very similar to one another. And when those thoughts are thought about enough times, beliefs are formed.
What Thought Is Thinking
Since you may not even know what exactly your thoughts are, it can be relatively easy to find out. The process that was given to you on how to change a belief in the previous chapter is definitely a good way to become more aware of your thoughts, as it advises you to find the thought you feel about a belief and a desire.
A better way to become aware of your thoughts is to make a small commitment to yourself that throughout your day you will remind yourself to randomly stop what you are doing in your mind, and become aware of the thoughts you are thinking at that time. Try to do this about every two to three hours and work up to every hour. You should only need to do this process for a short period of time—about a week or so—as this is just to make you become aware of what your dominating thoughts are. Make sure to try it at different times throughout each day, while getting ready, eating, driving, at work, talking to others, waiting, relaxing, and many more.
Whenever you come across a pattern that will show you what your main thoughts are that you think about, and from there progress can be made. The reason for randomly checking what you are thinking is because it’s better to see your thoughts in action than to assume they are a certain way.
When the Thought Thinks
When you have spent some time taking a good look at your every day thoughts, you may find it a little difficult to try to control them. The reason for this is because when you try to rid yourself of those thoughts they come back at you with full force. It’s like trying to rid your lawn of weeds—when you try to remove them but fail to get to the root, you will have only disturbed them, and once they have been disturbed, they will grow back full force.
The root of your thoughts is always the belief. In order to rid the belief you must, first of all, discover it. Then you must place a new belief in place of the one you want to remove, which we have already discussed. So when you think about the lawn theory, once the root has been pulled, you must then fertilize the lawn to stop the growth of more weeds, and maybe sprinkle some grass seed to make the lawn lush and green.
Now the fertilizer is like your new belief. The grass seed is like your thoughts, you allow new fresh ones to grow in the lawn, and now take over. And if you happen to get a weed, you just allow the grass to smother it and not aggravate it.
You cannot try to rid yourself of negative thoughts, for you will only cause more thoughts that are the same to come to you. You must begin thinking just a few more better thoughts on a daily basis. Though much of this, if not all, will usually be taken care of when the belief has changed, just a little tender loving care will be required.
TLC
When you are examining your thoughts you’re going to realize that there may be many self-destructing ones there. One of the worst things that you can do to yourself is begin criticizing yourself even more because these thoughts are present. Instead, if you would begin telling yourself that, “These are my thoughts at this time and I know that if I let them be they will dissolve. I will just tell myself that they came without me knowing and they will fade without me knowing.”
You see what you are doing is you are not giving the self-destructive thoughts any power. You are letting them go by just letting them be and at the same time you are allowing yourself to accept exactly where you are.
At this time even though you are accepting these negative thoughts doesn’t mean you are telling them to stay, rather you are giving yourself permission to accept them, which is needed in order to have them dissolved. You are not trying to push them away, which will only cause them to remain and flourish.
Think About It
Whenever you have let any negative thoughts just be and have not forced them away, there is a process to perform to stop them entering your mind at any time. This process is so simple, and somewhat entertaining, that it will be hard for you to fathom at first until you see how well it is working for you to keep control of those pesky thoughts.
What you do is when you notice a negative thought of any kind dominating your mind you, instead of trying to push it away or replace it, choose to think about it. However you go about thinking about it is really up to you. You could think the exact thought over and over in your head, which will lead you to not remember what you were thinking about. You could decide to take a few minutes, about five, to focus upon that thought. Think about everything you can think of about that thought. This will allow you to view the thought in a different perspective and eventually have it dissolved. Another thing to do is to force the thought to become more. Really focus as much as you can upon that thought to let it become stronger. In doing so, you will then draw a blank and you will not know what the thought is any longer, for it will no longer be there.
Many people have been trying to force their negative thoughts away and force positive ones in there place, but you just can’t force anything into place. The way it will work best is to let things be—then you allow change.
Power of Thoughts
When you feel you should not give any thought to negative thoughts, what you are doing is giving more power to them. It’s saying that your negative thoughts have more strength to create than positive ones. When in fact a positive thought—one that feels good when thought about—will always have more power in it because your inner self is guiding you towards them. And anywhere your inner self leads you will always have more power than where it’s trying to guide you from.
No longer give self-destructing thoughts the attention you are trying to remove. When a thought is being forced away, or forced in, it only causes what is being pushed away or forced in to multiply. This doesn’t just work for your thoughts; it works exactly the same for your emotions and every desire.
What you must begin to do is trust your inner self, and allow yourself to stop pushing so hard against what you don’t want and stop pushing so hard against what you do want.
A Power Desire
Whenever you desire something you are in that moment desiring improvement in your life. Everything that you have ever wanted was wanted because you thought that whenever you had it, it would improve your life at that time.
Wanting of anything is what gives you life force. It’s what makes you become passionate. It’s what brings excitement into your body. It’s what drives your very existence.
Whether a desire is considered large or small, the life in it is all the same, as well as the obtaining of it or not.
Desires spring from you all day everyday, whether you are aware of this or not. And within every desire comes in a new desire. You continue to want more once you get more and that’s what makes life worth living. You are just starting to live until you understand the power of your desire.
When You Have a Desire
In just about every minute of everyday you desire something, whether it is a good chat with a friend, or the arriving at your destination, or even just to have a good feed of food. All of these are desires that you encounter each day and there are many more that are just a part of your basic day. These desires tend to go unrecognized for the reason that you expect to receive them without any doubt.
Every time that you expect your desire without any doubt, and pretty much give little thought to what you want—except the initial choosing of that desire—what you want immediately comes to you with just as much effort as the thought that originally created the desire. Now the only reason for that is there is an absolute expecting that you will have what you want at that time.
There are so many desires that you receive each and every day that you never give any notice to them. But if you would pay attention, just a little, you would begin to understand just how desires are formed by you and received by you also.
The Making
How all desires are created is the same in every moment. You are producing new desires in every waking hour you are alive. It may seem as though a desire must be something that you have a yearning for, such as wanting something because you are uncomfortable or unsatisfied with what you currently have. However, a desire is anything that you want, big or small, important or unimportant. A desire is to make you feel better than now.
Take for example the desire to have a good feed. You know that the food will make you feel better when you are hungry. So every desire that you desire has the possibility of making you feel better, and making you feel comfortable and satisfied. That’s the reason for all things wanted.
Out of the many desires that you hold, it may seem to you that the big things that you want are the only desires you have. In most cases the big desires you hold are the ones you make more difficult to obtain. This of course will always be because of the beliefs you hold about obtaining the larger desire.
When You Want
Anytime you have a desire for something you become more than you were. Your soul feels it, your inner self feels it, and so do you. The thing that happens is that every part of you begins to live more, and it feels as though everything around you is full of more life force.
People think that setting goals to accomplish something is what drives them to live more. However, that is only a part of the reason; there are flaws in that idea. Having the desire is what the goal is. When people set goals there is always a time limit to reach the desired desire, and when there is a time limit there is pressure with self-criticism to follow when all plans have not been followed. When this happens it is one of the worst things you do to stop what you want from coming to you.
When you want something you do not need a plan in order to have it, for your soul has already become it and your inner self will show you the steps to getting there. All you have to do is listen, which will be shown later in this book.
So since I said that when you desire something you become more, it’s because your soul becomes it—and seeing as your soul is a massive part of you—you become the you you would be with your desire, even though you have yet to obtain it.
What’s a Desire?
When you think of wanting something you have an idea that it is something you must be able to see. But what I would like to make clear, before we go any farther, is that a desire is anything that you want.
It’s all the material objects. It’s money. It’s relationships with others, and yourself. It’s your body and health. It’s your thoughts and beliefs. It’s any emotion you want. It is spiritual desires and the wanting of answers. All of everything is a desire.
When You Want
In every place of your life you will continue to want more. You may say, “After I have this, I won’t ask for anything else.” But when you think back on when you said that, did you stop asking for more? You just cannot stop wanting more.
Your purpose of living is to grow, and in order to grow you cannot stay the same, and to change you must get more. When you desire something you are wanting change, and in that change you are growing and becoming more than you were—so you don’t stay the same.
Everything around you changes and grows. Nothing can stay the same, including you.
When Desires Grow
A desire for something will automatically create the same reason for that desire, a desire in all areas of your life. When the desire is born it is only partly a desire, as you want the reason for it to come into every part of your life. What that means is that your desire creates more wanting.
When you, for example, want to change a belief, you also create the desire to change any other limiting beliefs you may have. Or if the desire is to have more money to enjoy, you create the desire to enjoy all other areas of your life more. And even if your desire is to feel good in your body, you automatically create the wanting to feel good about everything. So from your first desire you will continue to want more.
There is no stopping you from wanting more once you have gotten what you’ve wanted. It will only be a short time until you will want again. But then your desires will be different because you can only want from where you are now, not from where you were.
You cannot continue to compare where you are and where someone else is, for both are constantly changing. When you try to compare it does no good, for you both are coming from two different places to begin with.
What you must begin to understand is that the reason you want something is because you know it will make you feel better than you currently do. And since you will never stop wanting more, you are going to have to find some way of feeling good and feeling satisfied while still desiring more.
Having Desires
Now that you understand how you desire, you should come to realize how wanting plays a massive role in how your life will be. We have discussed how a desire once created creates more wanting. It is also important to understand that when you want something you are also wanting the essence of that desire to come into your life in all other areas.
We touched briefly on this aspect in a previous chapter using the example of wanting more money. The example explained how wanting more money develops into a desire of being safe in your relationships and environment.
So let’s recap. The desire for more money brings the essence of the desire to have more freedom within your work and time. It then creates the essence of wanting a big amount of love and intimacy with a partner. It creates the essence of the desire to become in control of your thoughts and emotions. It will create the essence of wanting to feel healthy and safe in your body. It brings the essence of wanting to have more choices and the freedom to choose whichever choice you prefer.
So it isn’t really the money itself that you desire, rather it’s everything that the money can represent to you. The desire for more money is usually wanted to bring freedom, choices and pleasure into your life through your finances, but also to bring the essence of the money in all other areas. And since it is an essence of a desire that you want—not the actual desire itself—once you let it in, everything else will begin to open up for you as well.
The Power
When you desire something that single desire has so much strength inside it. It transforms everything else in your life that that one desire represents to you. Understanding this will help you when you begin to change your life to the life you want. For at times it may become overwhelming when you feel you have so much to change. So with this understanding you will be able to have a desire, and know that from that, all areas of your life will improve—you and the life you want will come together as one. And as you begin to allow yourself to come together with your desired life, you will come together with your soul as well.
You can never stop dreaming for more as every desire is what keeps you vibrant, alive, and full of passion and excitement. Every desire always creates new and better desires. The more you want from your life, the more you are going to get.
Up until now you may have not wanted for much due to various reasons as you have believed it is unspiritual to want, or wrong to ask for more, or you may have given up wanting what you really want because of multiple disappointments. But once you understand that you and your soul expand and become more than before, you will then know that desiring for more is a request of your soul, your inner self and you.
When you start becoming more aware of your emotions, you will know in every moment which way your desire is. And if you keep on track, disappointment will not be an option.
Feelings Feel
Every time a thought is thought, a feeling towards that thought is felt. The feeling will always match whichever belief you have towards what thought you are thinking. Emotions can be easier to identify than thoughts and can also be simpler to direct.
Emotions can only be felt as good or felt as bad, so there can only be one or the other. However, inside them they are either felt better or worse than how they were just felt.
All emotions bring to themselves more emotions that are similar in their feeling. And this is caused because the thoughts bring in more thoughts that are the same.
You cannot ever, not feel anything. You may say at times that right now you are not feeling anything, but in that feeling of not feeling anything you are still feeling a feeling—you must in order to recognize that you are not feeling.
The Inner Self Speaks
Many people have been told to listen to their own guidance or wait until it tells them what to do, but most have never really understood just what their own guidance sounds like. They wait for a sign, or some epiphany, to direct them in the right direction. What they haven’t been aware of is that all day long they are given signs and signals, but have chosen to not listen to them. These signs for most people seem too normal to be words spoken to them by their inner self.
The language of your inner self mainly speaks to you through your emotions. At first it tried to speak to you through your thoughts, but over time you began to push thoughts away and disregard them. So after many attempts of your inner self trying to guide you through your thoughts, it moved on and decided since you can never not feel anything, it will get through to you by using your emotions. And since you can’t ignore what you feel, like you can ignore your thoughts, it decided this is the best way in.
Now if you have been waiting for some life changing phenomenon to suddenly pop into your life, you may wait a while longer, until of course you have not listened enough that then some epiphany will have to occur as your inner self may have no other choice at getting your attention.
But if your ready, right here and right now to listen to your inner self speaking to you, in its language, its here for you in every moment, by every belief, and by every thought about every desire. Now it is here to stay—your emotions.
Listen
The work of your soul is to become what you want. The work of your inner self is to guide you towards your soul. And your work is to listen and go in the direction your inner self is guiding you.
Now the guidance is easy to follow. You know in every moment which way you are heading by determining whether you feel good or you feel bad. The feeling of feeling good means you are working your way towards your soul and what you desire. When what you are feeling feels bad, you are working yourself away from your soul and away from what you want.
There are many emotions that feel good and many that feel bad. However, there are many that may have felt good at one time, and not so good at another. As well as that, bad emotions can feel worse or better at different times.
There are many emotions on each side of good and bad, far too many to mention. There are also many different words used for the same emotion and each word can mean different things on different subjects. But do not get confused with this as you will begin to become aware of your emotions just by reading this, and you will also gain confidence in your determining on a regular basis just by practice.
Better or Worse
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